Fellow Blogger’s Commentary Related to Why, I Believe, People Have Long Been Concerned About TLC’s Patriarchal Duggar Family

I would like to draw your attention to a fellow blogger’s website on which she has posted an excellent, well-researched article pertaining to why many people have long been very concerned about TLC’s Duggar family who subscribe to, practice, and promote the teachings of the contemporary “patriarchal” movement.

I believe the post will help readers realize why many believe that this movement is not based on traditional Christian/biblical truths and  why, of even greater concern, many believe it has been a contributing factor in the exploitation of women and children within its confines. Here is the post:


While the blogger does not cite the Duggar family per se, or the recent revelation of the incest perpetrated in their family over a period of time on at least four of the sisters when they were very young, there is an important tie in, I believe. Thus, I refer to it here. For information on how the Duggar family has been involved in the patriarchal cult, a simple web search will reveal many credible informational venues (as opposed to gossip sites).

Although the emphasis in the news seems to be on redeeming the oldest brother (the perpetrator of the incest) I sincerely hope and pray that his victims, one as young as 5 at the time, receive the attention and counseling they need.

The crime of incest impacts its victims over a lifetime–whether or not they forgive the perpetrator. And this doesn’t mean they become bitter or angry. As Scripture indicates, “we are fearfully and wonderfully made,” which includes the “unseen” parts, too: thoughts, emotions, psyches, souls, spirits. We hardly know, as youngsters, what causes certain fears and trepidations, particularly if there are actual crimes hidden, covered up, or described as mere “teenage mistakes” (as is the case, here). We hardly know, sometimes, as adults what traces back…

What makes it particularly heartbreaking for those girls (now young women) is that in that belief system they are regarded as “churches” to their father’s/husband’s “savior” (and now, “prophet” and “priest”) roles. This is the primary focus of the blogger’s piece linked here.

Girls and women are to wholly submit to Daddy/husband (“immediate obedience” is the mandate) as unto God, literally. If Daddy says “do not speak of this,” they must obey or it is tantamount to disobeying God, Himself. If Daddy says, “you are partly to blame” (provocative actions, dress, looks, who knows what all–even in a child), they assume the blame/guilt/shame…

This is not to say, of course, that every family in the patriarchal cult experiences incest, but in such a closed, hierarchal belief system, the chances are logically far greater such crimes will occur.

What makes it particularly fearful for the women and children in the Duggar family, I think, now that the TLC cameramen and women, producers and support staff will not be around as sort of “witnesses” to the Duggar daily life (they have suspended the show for now) and Daddy may reign unfettered, as it were, is how much worse it might be on the girls and women.

And how much stress and tension due to the loss of likely considerable income may exacerbate matters (at least one big sponsor, General Mills, has pulled out of supporting the show–now and if it is ever reinstated). In that cult, girls and women are generally not allowed to attend college or trade schools and virtually the only occupations (until marriage when they assist husbands) allowed them are homeschooling (teacher licensing not required) and/or attending births as midwife assistants. And that’s a lot of mouths to feed for the boys/young men old enough to earn income outside the home–and who remain at home.

We need to pray for the Duggar women and children. And if anyone reading this is in any position of influence in that family, please reach out to them. I don’t know if Daddy Duggar can “hear” any of this, as enmeshed as he seems in the patriarchal cult, but there is always hope for the others.

Sadly, “the secular world” now has even more evidence with which to equate the tares with the wheat.

But reader, please understand: the modern patriarchal movement/cult does not reflect true Christianity.  In my opinion, the women and children of the Duggar family are, sadly, the (current) “poster children” of why this is so.

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4 Responses to Fellow Blogger’s Commentary Related to Why, I Believe, People Have Long Been Concerned About TLC’s Patriarchal Duggar Family

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  2. Carl Gordon says:

    Thank God for both of you, for courageously exposing this topic to the “Light”!


  3. krwordgazer says:

    Thank you so much for the link and post! I’m glad my post was an encouragement to you!


    • pnissila says:

      You’re welcome. I always appreciate your thoughtful and scholarly approach to exposing the dangers of the extra-biblical, patriarchal movement (including the “Quiverfull” offshoot, to which the Duggar family belongs). Women and children (and men) need all the “voices” God provides to bring us back to the Scriptures on the subject. I appreciate and learn from your treatment of other topics as well.

      To the context within which I referenced your post, I hope the Duggar girls, now young women, get as much attention as their brother is receiving. He seems to be treated almost as the greater victim by his supporters. And he is a victim of several things, likely, considering the cult within which he has been reared.

      However, his sisters and the other girl he molested have the much longer term and more complex healing ahead, particularly as one of them was 5 years old when he began his two-year molestation crimes, the others, younger than 12, as per the news.

      It would also help with perspective if people note that his parents tried to cover it up.

      People’s moral outrage over what Josh committed is not the equivalent of the crime itself. His supporters are blurring the distinction. The world’s reactions are, to the contrary, the effects/consequences of his crimes.

      And the exploitation of those children all these years for TLC’s and Daddy’s profit (for women and children are obligated to support the father’s plans for the family in that cult), complicates things immensely.

      The good news for the girls/young women, however, is that because they are so well known, I am sure many people are reaching out to them. Perhaps at some point they will realize that Daddy’s demands are not tantamount to God’s will for them and they will receive the help they need.


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